Rachel and Stacey

This podcast titled "Rachel and Stacey - Beyond Rainbows" features a conversation between the two individuals on the subject of identifying as asexual, recorded in Wellington, Aotearoa New Zealand, on March 5, 2014. The 33-minute audio offers a personal exploration of asexuality and its nuances throughout the 2010s, shedding light on the perspectives and experiences of individuals who identify as asexual within and outside the queer community.

The podcast opens with Rachel and Stacey introducing themselves and their identification as asexual, meaning they do not experience sexual attraction to any gender. They delve into aesthetic attraction, distinguishing it from sexual desire, exemplifying how someone could find another person visually appealing without the impulse or need for sexual interaction. Romance is discussed as separate from sexual affection, with Rachel and Stacey pondering the connections between romance, intimacy, eroticism, and their personal interest in romantic relationships.

Stacey describes a romantic orientation potentially aligning with demiromanticism—a need for a strong emotional connection prior to considering romance—which often leads to confusion among others who conflate romantic and sexual attraction.

Regarding the social response to their asexuality, Rachel and Stacey touch on the challenges they encounter, such as disbelief from family members or pressure from mainstream society, which often misunderstands or dismisses the asexual identity. They underscore the prevalent questioning they face, including hypotheticals regarding potential sexual relationships and the frequent conflation with the desire for sex.

The individuals address their sense of belonging in the queer community, noting the historical focus on sexual liberation within such spaces, which occasionally leaves asexual individuals feeling excluded or invisible. They call for greater inclusivity and representation in both queer and mainstream spheres. They suggest that to create safer environments, it's crucial not to question a person's asexual identity or to insist that they "haven't met the right person yet," which is a common and frustrating misinterpretation of asexuality.

A key topic revolves around how asexuality is portrayed in the media, with both Rachel and Stacey advocating for positive, clear, and canonical representations of asexual characters. They believe that such portrayals would aid in validating the identity and reducing feelings of abnormality or exclusion. They also discuss the insufficient coverage of asexuality in school curricula and the pressing need for education on sexual diversity beyond heteronormative frameworks.

Finally, Rachel and Stacey emphasize the importance of the internet in discovering and connecting with the asexual community, highlighting the role of social media platforms and forums in sharing experiences and supporting those exploring their own asexual identities. They conclude by urging for acceptance and support for individuals identifying as asexual, advocating for the queer community to acknowledge the spectrum of diverse identities and experiences within its ranks.

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