Alicia(October 2013)

This podcast, recorded in Nelson, New Zealand on October 2, 2013, features an individual named Alicia discussing the concept of fluid bisexuality and personal experiences navigating identity within various social and religious contexts during the 2010s. Fluid bisexuality, as described by Alicia, is a sexuality where attraction to different genders occurs at distinct times, rather than simultaneously. This nuanced definition challenges common misconceptions and generalizations about bisexuality, which Alicia finds challenging to explain to others.

Alicia recounts the complexities of coming out, which includes mixed acceptance from family and the loss of some friends. Initial attempts to disclose this identity at the age of 16 were met with disbelief. Reactions within religious communities have been particularly polarizing, with some churches enforcing a binary choice regarding identity and faith, leading Alicia to depart from spaces where acceptance was conditional.

Within the familial context, Alicia's coming out experience varied; while there was some resistance from some family members, others were more accepting. Alicia pointed to the generational shift in attitudes towards queer identities, highlighting persistent struggles despite gradual improvements in acceptance and understanding.

In terms of community, Alicia stresses the importance of belonging to the queer community, where there is a sense of unconditional acceptance. Active participation in youth groups like QSA (Queer Straight Alliance) has enhanced Alicia's comfort with personal identity and provided vital support. Alicia discusses the dichotomy between schools such as Hagley in Christchurch, where queer issues were rarely discussed, and the more progressive atmosphere of Nelson where such dialogues were commonplace and less taboo.

The podcast also addresses issues faced by the queer community in New Zealand, including bullying and homophobia. Despite New Zealand's progressive steps, such as the passage of the Marriage Equality Bill, Alicia anticipates that issues like family rejection and societal stereotypes will persist. They are optimistic, however, about the future, advocating for a world where sexual orientation is no longer taboo or a vector for discrimination.

Alicia also comments on the representation of bisexual and queer individuals in media, emphasizing the need for increased and normalized visibility. While some portrayals exist, the general consensus is that more inclusive and multifaceted representations are necessary to combat stereotypes and foster broader understanding.

Finally, the podcast touches on Alicia's personal life and aspirations, including raising an open-minded daughter and pursuing a future in counseling, specifically within the LGBTQ community. Alicia candidly discusses the challenges of navigating relationships while bisexual and emphasizes the importance of being true to oneself despite societal pressures.

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