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Nicolas(February 2012)

In this podcast Nicolas talks about being young and gay in 2012.

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In an intimate 15-minute podcast recorded on the 27th of February, 2012 in Auckland, Aotearoa New Zealand, the subject, Nicolas, candidly discusses the personal journey of discovering and accepting their sexual identity as gay. The recording touches upon various themes including youth, sexuality, gender identity, and the social dynamics of coming out in the early 2010s.

Nicolas begins by sketching a portrait of ordinary life, emphasizing interests in cars, socializing, movies, and dancing. Raised in Auckland, they spent part of their childhood in Sydney before moving back to their familial roots.

The conversation delves into their acknowledgment of being gay at an early age. Feelings towards the same gender were recognized around age 11, but it was not until the age of 15 that they openly embraced this identity. A significant factor that influenced the realization was the interaction with a co-worker who was also gay. This opened up avenues for self-acceptance, but not without initial confusion and concern.

Coming out presented a challenge as their social group consisted predominantly of straight peers, which caused apprehension regarding acceptance. Yet upon revealing their true identity, the expectation of losing friends was unfounded, and instead, they received wide support. The strong sense of self helped navigate the potential social risks associated with coming out.

The first brave step towards openness was taken with their mother, who responded with surprising nonchalance despite a very emotional disclosure from Nicolas. The general reaction from others in their circle was also positive, with no loss of friendships being a testament to an accepting environment.

An interesting pastime shared was that of participating in drag, a topic approached from a young age with support from unexpected corners, notably their grandparents, who embraced this form of self-expression.

Nicolas, who came out at a relatively young age, compared to many others they encountered, recognized the gradual shift towards acceptance, highlighting that younger individuals seemed to be more forthcoming about their identities.

Relationship dynamics post-coming out showed confidence in choosing partners who are open about their sexuality. Nicolas avoided complicated relationships with individuals who were not accepting of their own identities.

Socialization and forging connections occur across various platforms, from workplaces to online dating applications and social media. Despite being shy initially, Nicolas painted a picture of a sociable individual, easily making friends and engaging with others.

Despite the risks associated with being openly gay, Nicolas did not experience any form of abuse or derogatory treatment. They attribute a lot of this resilience to being strong-willed and thick-skinned.

The audio traces the unique yet universal story of one individual's journey in understanding their sexual identity, navigating societal norms, and building relationships. This personal narrative from Nicolas represents an important moment in LGBTQ+ history, depicting the societal shift and personal courage required to live openly and authentically.

This summary is created using Generative AI. Although it is based on the recording's transcription, it may contain errors or omissions. Click here to learn more about how this summary was created.

Record date:27th February 2012
Interviewer:Benji Watt
Location:Auckland, Aotearoa New Zealand
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Archive:The master recording is archived at the Alexander Turnbull Library (OHDL-003926).