What Did You Call Me?

In the podcast "What Did You Call Me?" recorded on April 19, 1999, in Wellington, Aotearoa, New Zealand, a group of gay men engage in a candid discussion about the various terms used to label and define their identities. Throughout the 18-minute recording, which primarily covers attitudes and lexicon from the 1990s, Michael Moore and Rod McLeod Morrison, among others, reflect on their personal experiences with these words.

The conversation unveils the diverse and often complex feelings associated with terms like "faggot," initially a derogatory insult meant to demean. Speakers recount the hurtful connotations associated with the term, as well as its historical usage describing people carrying bundles of sticks – a far cry from its hurtful modern application.

The term "gay" emerges as more positive and affirmative, seen by some participants as synonymous with happiness, brightness, and normalcy. There is a deliberate avoidance to be boxed into a single identity, with a preference for terms that feel less harsh and more modern. The word "homosexual," conversely, is deemed clinical and is often associated with medical or psychiatric contexts that past generations used to marginalize gay individuals.

In contrast, "queer" as a description is met with mixed reactions, some viewing it as a broad label for anyone diverging from heteronormativity, while others find it implies strangeness and prefer not to adopt it as a self-descriptor. There is also an exploration of the concept of "family" both in the traditional sense and as a coded term within the gay community, highlighting the community as alternate kinship for those who may not be open with their blood relatives.

The speakers examine the flamboyant and effeminate connotations that the term "queen" carries, sometimes positive and playful, and other times negative. They delve into historical uses, touching on the code language and nicknames once prevalent within the community, allowing for discreet communication amidst a backdrop of prejudice.

The notion of "family" takes on varied meanings. For some, it signifies kinship, while for others, it serves as a subtle identifier within the gay community. The importance of "love" is unanimously elevated, regarded as one of the most meaningful and deep-seated terms within the sphere of sexuality and human connection, transcending labels and orientations.

Lastly, the discussion touches on the gay community in Wellington, perceived by some as disjointed and self-centered, suggesting that the diversity and complexity of individual experiences challenge the idea of a monolithic gay community.

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