Mike Keegan

In the podcast recorded on October 31, 2012, Mike Keegan shares personal insights into the life of an older gay individual navigating the tapestry of experiences that have defined their journey through different times and places. The discussion, hosted in Auckland, Aotearoa New Zealand, by interviewer John Kelly, captures the evolution of social attitudes and personal relationships over several decades, particularly highlighting the 1950s.

In the early stages of life, marriage to a woman was the path taken by Keegan, unaware of the full concept of homosexuality, despite recognizing an attraction to other men. The term 'gay' and its implications were not well-understood at the time. After 31 years of marriage marked by friendship and love, though diluted in its latter half, and raising two children, Keegan's marriage ended in divorce. Both Keegan and their ex-spouse remained supportive of one another, a bond that proved vital when they faced the tragic murder of their son.

Keegan reflects on the shared grief and the strength of continued friendship that was a comfort during such a devastating time. The compassion and acceptance of their children regarding Keegan's sexual orientation were also emphasized, noting that being gay has never been an issue within the family.

During earlier years when homosexual law reforms were being debated, Keegan felt that one's sexuality was a personal matter and didn’t understand why it should be anyone else's concern. As for the then proposed gay marriage bill, Keegan pondered its necessity, given civil unions provided some legal recognition, but acknowledged there may be technicalities, possibly legal, needing resolution.

Delving into the concept of a gay retirement village, Keegan reveals an active involvement in the preliminary surveys and discussions, supporting the idea though not currently in need of such accommodation due to good health and independence. Keegan points out the overwhelming positive response for a dedicated gay retirement community, but the reality of such a project remained uncertain.

On a social note, Keegan recounts active participation in various gay organizations and initiatives, such as Friends of Friends, which provides a space for camaraderie outside of traditional nightlife, and a desire to rejuvenate its membership for future generations. Despite health issues inhibiting mobility, Keegan expresses a commitment to aiding and uplifting the community when possible.

Keegan has an extensive travel history, including escapades to numerous countries and cultural experiences, especially in eastern regions like Thailand where camaraderie with local gay circles has enriched the travel adventures. They attribute mutual respect and authentic interpersonal connections with the sustained affinity for such places.

The discussion concludes with Keegan speaking on life lessons and wisdom accumulated over the years. The importance of being true to oneself is highlighted, encouraging individuals to live openly without the need for overt declarations. Keegan notes that today's more accepting society allows for a smoother integration for gay individuals. Despite experiencing personal tragedies, Keegan affirms a satisfying life led with hard work, exploration, and genuine relationships.

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Mike Keegan

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