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[00:00:00] This podcast is brought to you by pride in the.com. With their support from the rule foundation. [00:00:07] How would you describe your identity? [00:00:10] I'm gender queer, probably, like, probably the overall voice describe it. [00:00:17] What does that mean to you? Um, [00:00:19] I try as light as much as I can, I don't really identify with gender, like, I go with how I feel about it. I don't personally feel like I fit in any particular category. And [00:00:38] let's just while it's a little [00:00:40] different, the language that we've used about identity has changed much over time. [00:00:46] It has been it hasn't, like, it's got better, I think. [00:00:50] Do you find it hard to kind of discarding that you identify as creative people? Do? [00:00:55] You? Yeah. It's very difficult. Like, it takes me quite a while to actually trust someone enough to then explain that to them. Because why in the workplace is too much light is too difficult to explain to our boss, so doesn't work out? Well, to explain that to people because it constantly get flooded, new people come in, and just just takes a lot of time to explain that. Unlike with the staff as well. It's they slip up and forget quite a lot. The ones that have explained it to me, so it's just like, labor. I know, myself and my good friends, my close ones they all know and use it correctly. So that's good. [00:01:40] How did you? When did you first realize? [00:01:44] I'm probably like, if I look back on it, I stopped. I don't find with an agenda specifically, when I was like, [00:01:58] maybe [00:02:01] 13. But like early sort of found out what it was when I was about 15. So yeah, actually, I learned about me, okay. But I learned a lot more when I came to New Zealand, which was really good. But what I did learn in the UK did help me. So that's good. [00:02:22] How did you first kind of Where did you find that information. [00:02:26] So in the UK, I found it through going to pride festivals and stuff from quite a young age was where I first sort of access it, but like expert access for personal interest one on sort of the older and also the queer groups over there. And then when I came to New Zealand, it was through one of my friends a high school. So told me about everything over here and informed me of all the groups and things that was good. [00:02:55] And did you before you learn the game because like I said, you can they did you come up with anything else with, um, [00:03:06] I came up as transfer a while. So I thought that's what I was. [00:03:14] Like a lot was outright gay for a very long time. Because that's how, like, that's what I thought it was because that's what I knew about at the time. But then I realized that wasn't actually what it was. And the process of finding out was quite good for me because it made it a better balance me. So yeah, let's get [00:03:34] through any of you coming out what kind of reactions you get from people. [00:03:38] My parents were really accepting, which was good. [00:03:43] I had some quite nasty comments from various different people. [00:03:48] Yeah, most of my friends were accepting, which was good. The ones that one, we're not really friends anymore. Yeah. What was it like to high school with a majority, my close friends in high school knew my peers around me, I wasn't out to them just wasn't the thing that happened. Like we came out publicly in high school in the UK where I was, you weren't gonna have fun time sort of thing. It just wasn't worth the harassment from everyone else to just do that. So I was just within my close circle sided, whereas I came out a bit bigger and New Zealand and it was quite open and people knew. So it was good to be here to be able to do that. [00:04:31] experience a kind of [00:04:34] Yeah, heaps and heaps. Like, [00:04:39] quite a bit really from the people that one is accepting. [00:04:47] Just like people yelling across the playground, like really offensive slurs and stuff. And it's just, it's not nice to experience at all. [00:05:02] Go do anything. [00:05:07] Over here, they get they, for a while, in one of my classrooms. I had a sweat box and every step work I have Pandora's box, which was really good. And that stopped. Everyone was saying it, which was handy. But [00:05:24] it's Yeah. And [00:05:32] do you find that something you? [00:05:36] dislike weird? You know, is it something you have to keep on? coming out? [00:05:40] Yeah, constantly. [00:05:45] Like, it's one of those things, every new person that you trust enough to tell you just have to go through that whole expanding process again. Getting on Facebook now is that you can have gender queer as your gender, which is really cool, like their gender option now. Good. So that's quite cool that they actually have that now. And it makes it a lot easier if people actually access my Facebook first find out who I am. See that first. That's good. [00:06:15] And what kind of things to people who might not agree with it? [00:06:20] Like I understand it kind of say, [00:06:25] Yeah, they challenge it. What does that mean? That that's not in the Bible? I get from them Christian before like, Okay, cool. [00:06:35] So to get things like that, what? [00:06:44] Like, how does that impact me? How does that make a difference to you? Like, why is there any difference from you? similar sort of thing? Yeah, just pretty much those little questions, unlike. [00:07:00] It's just horrible, though. Like, it's just things you don't want to think about. It's just nasty and nice. [00:07:09] And do you remember anything about sexuality or gender in your health classes [00:07:13] go? from years? Seven to 10? I did. And then after that, year [00:07:22] 12 and 13? I didn't do [00:07:25] anything then. But from your seven to 10? I did. I did a tiny, tiny bit in year five and six as well. [00:07:31] What kind of stuff do [00:07:32] they teach you? Near five and six, they just taught you the like real basics of people can be transgender people can be gay and straight. That was the basics in the UK, but like, they just teach you the mainstream basics. Because till you get sort of tier seven, when you're a bit more understanding, and then they sort of break it down the way that more but it's still quite basic really, to go to do your research. [00:08:01] And it's important to you to kind of have a sense of like community belonging. [00:08:06] Definitely. Yeah, I think it's good to have a community of people here that are sort of going through similar experiences. Not the same but similar. So you sort of have that backup support if you need it. [00:08:20] This was like a test on always talk to [00:08:22] as well, which is nice. Have you been involved in the community? Oh, man, the people. [00:08:28] So three keto here, I've met a few people in fortress well, which are the groups in Christchurch, and also through going to the hallways in Wellington, which been fun. So I think I met more people through the hallways and Wellington that I haven't Gosh, Judge, can [00:08:45] you tell me a bit about what [00:08:48] are the really awesome educational weekends run by USA, from people all over New Zealand like use and things to go stay on the tractor anymore? I for a few days and learn lots of different things and meet new people such fun. really enjoy? [00:09:11] You, like get in contact with those people? [00:09:13] Yeah, yeah. [00:09:16] And these kind of things like Facebook, and all sorts of social media playing more of a pattern, the way that we connect with other [00:09:23] definitely so much different. [00:09:27] I met cool people from states using the photo blogging site or like general site, Tumblr, and through Facebook as well, just like the different groups you can have on there, of like, [00:09:41] just various different people. And it's good because all the [00:09:46] crazies groups, and New Zealand all have a Facebook page as well. So you can be part of all those as well and connect with all those sort of people do which is get [00:09:56] can be found any other [00:09:58] people. I've been trying to quit. Um, I found a few, not too many. There's a few. [00:10:05] Like, I think I know one other person crushed everyone else's elsewhere. But yeah. [00:10:14] And what do you think about the way PR and trans people are represented in the media? [00:10:19] It's all right. It's not bad, like representation at the moment. With marriage bill passing. Since I've become a lot more positive, I found that I still find if something goes wrong, and it's queer or trans person, it's completely blown up on it shouldn't be at all. It shouldn't be like that. But it happens and sort of how it goes. And the media, silly really shouldn't be like that should be treated like everyone else, which included the media relations. [00:10:52] What do you think about the magical evil person? [00:10:54] Think it's good. I think it's probably on the best, most touching it a long time. [00:11:00] I like the whole argument just before it was passed, have you will do this if pacific time or if people are trying to marry? Or like Hispanic people trying to marry this wouldn't be happening. So why is this happening to them? It's not fair. And it's really good. So yeah. [00:11:16] Did you find submission or celebrate? Yeah, yeah. [00:11:22] My mom threw a rainbow party. [00:11:28] And got me to make rainbow cupcakes. [00:11:33] And what about like, have you seen any storylines are characters you can relate to, and kind of like, books, movies, TV shows. [00:11:42] Not particularly. But in skins TV show from UK, Frankie was like, as much as the show's went on to start to identify more as female, those first few episodes. She was like, just the way she dress, the way she act and everything was really quite gender queer sort of things. That was quite a good sort of identification for those starting block episodes. [00:12:07] What do you think about the way they kind of had to battle went on with it? [00:12:11] I think [00:12:13] she was very she wanted to be and then [00:12:19] changed, fitted, which wasn't too good. But yeah. [00:12:24] That reflects a lot of people's experience. [00:12:28] Yeah, definitely changed for them. And some people are right, and outlandish about who they are, which is really nice. And it's good that they can do that. But so many of us don't have the confidence to be on. It's all about confidence, a lot of the time and the support from people around. [00:12:48] TC and minis like stereotypes of green trans people in the media. [00:12:55] Yeah, quite a few. Like, sort of, one of the biggest ones I've noticed is with gay people, in general. They just hook up with everyone. So one of the biggest things like on TV show is just a hook up with every single person. And it's not actually how it is half the time, like, get the old one here in Georgia if people aren't like that. Yeah, it's one of them. And also with from other ones like okay, people is lesbians dressing Oh, Bush, and gay guys dressing will get like fun. So, yeah, not looks like either. [00:13:42] Have you had any current role models? [00:13:46] I'm a few. A few. [00:13:52] Sort of [00:13:54] a lot to with the industry that my mom was 10. She's hairdresser. It's quite a big industry for like queer and trans people. I've met a lot of them through her, which was co met some really cool people in New Zealand as well. So I sort of admire for the way they are, which is cool. [00:14:16] And, you know, many famous typically. [00:14:20] I don't actually like I've tried to find people that are out there. I guess I'm [00:14:29] not really nice. [00:14:32] Do you think if it was like more widely accepted to be clear that? [00:14:37] Yes, definitely, definitely. [00:14:42] What do you think some of the most important issues that are facing current transiently for the cylinder [00:14:48] acceptance of trans people in general, the knowledge of ancient queer life isn't very fast. I'm having actually like, awareness and people respecting them, I think a lot more respect as needed. For people, they think because there's something that they're going to want to do something. And it's not the case half the time. And I think it needs to be sort of towards people look younger over here as well. [00:15:21] We get what do you think are some of the solutions might be? [00:15:25] So solutions is quite a knowledge, bias, a big solution. There's no way to make people accepting really often to inform them and give them knowledge. And that's sort of the best way to do it. Really. [00:15:41] If you could explain to people why it's so important that they see us do liquid is the right, pronounce things like that, what would you say? [00:15:52] Um, I would just sort of started with explaining to them how, so let's say they were identifying as female, how they like it, people just continuously kept calling them him, or he just like, is such a nice boy sort of thing. How like the spark that feel within themselves and sort of explain those just like effectual feelings a lot, like makes you feel it really does work in sort of her almost. And it's good to have that sort of explanation that I'm just explained to before how they feel. But [00:16:32] do you think it's harder being new girlfriends with another cell phone? [00:16:37] I think so. There's more knowledge on the North Island than the South Island. South islands quite reserved, really? I'd say. [00:16:45] NASA is pretty good. Like NASA is pretty [00:16:49] crashed churches. All right, within the right circles. For thing. [00:16:57] What do you know about [00:16:59] history directing, in London, internationally? [00:17:03] internationally, I know quite a bit. [00:17:08] Half Mo, and things like that, from the States. [00:17:16] With New Zealand, my, where I went to high schools, they had the first openly lesbian principal. And I think it was either in New Zealand during the South Island. One of the first queer groups was set up in New Zealand Nelson. Obviously, the marriage equality bill passing. Yeah, just like quite a bit, um, good background knowledge to get me places. [00:17:49] Where do you think we might be in two years time? [00:17:52] hopefully more informed, hopefully more accepting? [00:17:58] Yeah, and hopefully, it it's just going to be a happy place. And because people will actually understand [00:18:07] what's it like, for you, and transitioning from school into university? [00:18:13] Um, it's good. Actually, I live in the house. So I just mentioned a week ago. Most floors, they have either female or male bathrooms. Luckily, on my floor, they have a female male bathroom to get, which is quite nice. So I don't have to choose. It is like the other side. But that's cool. It's still on my floor, which is good. And then my building. So don't have to run across buildings for [00:18:40] just good. [00:18:42] And yeah, it is a lot of fun. Compared high school, high school, you find your and I condense place was lots of people know everyone and anyone whereas at uni, there's so many people that you don't like, it's not the same harassment that people more grown up, it's [00:18:58] good, fun. You experienced any homophobia transphobia. A [00:19:03] lot particularly know. [00:19:06] Like, my workplaces at the university. And now we're really accepting of things. [00:19:13] And yeah, it's just not bad. [00:19:16] So it's good. Have you connected with gimmick here or any of the physical stuff, but [00:19:21] I haven't, as of yet, because I've been really busy [00:19:26] doing my assignments actually had time yet. But hopefully, over my next period of downtime, I'm going to have some time I am signed up to uni. [00:19:39] Start. [00:19:41] What are your hopes for your future? [00:19:44] Um, I'm doing engineering and science at the moment to become an engineering geologist. So see where it takes me. [00:19:57] And if you could give a message to you're struggling, kind of dragging to be in high school? What would you say? [00:20:09] Don't give up on what people say to you. [00:20:13] People are going to be nasty. You just sort of have to look at it as the misinformed trying to educate them feel sorry for them, then they don't know. You're like, you'll find it to them. You just need to know that they just don't have the right like the right knowledge that they need. [00:20:32] And what's your favorite thing about being a technical person in the film? [00:20:38] everything there is. [00:20:41] It's not an issue like it would be the amount of attacks on queer trans and gender and stuff in New Zealand is so minimal compared to UK. It's so much safer to be out here. It's good.

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